We moved here six months ago and I'm still lonely. Did we make a mistake?
Answered by Chris Deutsch, Founder & Editor
Licensed Minnesota Realtor #20382264 ·
The short answer
Probably not — you're on schedule. Real belonging takes longer than anyone admits when they hand you the keys, and six months is the hardest stretch: the novelty's gone, the routines aren't rooted yet, and everyone back home has stopped asking how it's going.
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The longer answer
A few true things. If you arrived in fall or winter, you haven't seen this place's social season yet — these cities open up from May to October, and a hard first winter is not a verdict. The standing commitment beats the open invitation: the league, the class, the volunteer shift puts you in the same room with the same people until they become your people. And sometimes the loneliness has an address — a block that keeps to itself, a location that makes everything far. That last one is the only version I can fix.
If part of it is the house or the block, tell me — I've moved people twice. Just call.
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