We moved here six months ago and I'm still lonely. Did we make a mistake?
Probably not — you're on schedule. Real belonging takes longer than anyone admits when they hand you the keys, and six months is the hardest stretch: the novelty's gone, the routines aren't rooted yet, and everyone back home has stopped asking how it's going.
A few true things. If you arrived in fall or winter, you haven't seen this place's social season yet — these cities open up from May to October, and a hard first winter is not a verdict. The standing commitment beats the open invitation: the league, the class, the volunteer shift puts you in the same room with the same people until they become your people. And sometimes the loneliness has an address — a block that keeps to itself, a location that makes everything far. That last one is the only version I can fix.
If part of it is the house or the block, tell me — I've moved people twice. Just call.
I wrote this answer, and I stand behind it. I'm Chris Deutsch, a Minneapolis Realtor (MN #20382264). Twenty-five years of walking these neighborhoods, checking basements, and sitting across kitchen tables from people making exactly this call. I re-check every answer and date it — this one was last verified .
If your situation is more specific than the market, that's the one worth talking through. Email me at chris@lakesarearealty.com.